Thoughts - Why Dating Sucks..

So you're back in the rat race, maybe you're not actively looking for a partner, but this is it. You're supposedly 'dating' again. You picked yourself out of those nasty sweatpants you've been slobbing around in, you've completely over-watched every show on Netflix and left-over pizza just isn't cutting it anymore. Besides, sharing that Pizza would be alot easier with some company.

Not only is 'dating' gross, but it's not exactly the most relaxing experience, especially for us girls. (Sorry guys.) Not only do you have to scout your potential 'person' but you have to judge them based on a first meeting. Is this person going to be awesome or turn you into a knitting grandma at the age of 22? 

'Hey, maybe this person isn't a dick' let's see what they have to offer. Because essentially that's all you're doing, testing the other person to see how compatible they are with yourself.

Choosing an outfit is a nightmare. You want to look your best, but not too try hard.. you don't want to make them think you tried too hard right?

If this isn't a complete waste of time and on the odd chance that they aren't a strange weirdo and you're all like 'hey I dig this person' you then move onto the weird awkward stage that comes after all that initally weird awkward stuff.

I always find questioning your own actions is just something absolutely ridiculous and everybody is guilty of doing it. You want the other person to fancy you back right.. so you chuck on a load of charm, which is scary in itself! Do you see each other again, do you not.. do you ask.. is that weird? Did I do this wrong? Am I coming across as needy or too much? Do they even want to see me again? Then you start asking your friends for advice.

And this is the exact reason why IT SUCKS. Not just in the ‘that sucks’ kind of way but in a genuine confidence crushing, soul destroying kind of way. Not knowing where you stand with people. They tick all the boxes and have nice qualities and you want to know them more. But half of the time you come away either feeling shit about yourself or completely not liking the other person.

I know this has been a bit of a ranty-sort-of-post but I don't want it to all be negative. 

I think the best part of dating, is well, not really dating at all! The most magical and special memories come from not planning them at all. Let the spontaneity take you and in the mean time, be the best you, you can be.

And well, if that's not enough, here's my sassy independence woman playlist!